🔼: [[💡 Interdependence]], [[☀️ Connection]], [[🕯️ Resourcing]] #### ⭐️ Community Authentic communities are webs of interconnected, [[💡 Interdependence|interdependent]] relationships marked by [[Mutual Aid]] and [[⭐️ Community Care]]. It’s a kind of collective, and almost all of them are built in-person. The people who belong to them live together, work, eat, and cry together, are vulnerable and open with each other. They talk about local goings on, mutual aid, and community projects. They are teammates, lovers, friends, intimates, and confidants – not influencers or fans. It is *not* a group of people we just happen to be surrounded by. A tangle of abusive relationships is not a community. That said, just as there is no perfect relationship, there is no perfect community. We still have [[🕯️ Generative Conflict|conflict]] and we still sometimes feel uncomfortable as we [[🔑 Make aligned and compassionate decisions]] toward uncomfortable or even painful but necessary change. Community Values: - [[Mutual Aid]] - [[💡 Solidarity|Solidarity]] - [[⭐️ Community Care]] - Mutual Respect - Basic alignment of personal [[⭐ Values]] %% Being anchored primarily in online communities likely keep us moving less and generally involve our bodies less. Aleah Black: https://www.instagram.com/p/C-8SRBWuYj8/?img_index=1 We didn't always receive news alone because it was delivered orally. %% ###### Keys - [[🔑 Everything is connected to everything else]] - [[🔑 Shared entertainment is a low form of intimacy]], but that can be a good thing when starting new relationships and bringing people together initially. - [[🔑 Most online communities are pseudo-communities]] - [[🔑 Community is essential to trauma recovery]] - [[🔑 Healing is no one person's responsibility]] - [[🔑 There is no such thing as Self-Care]] - [[🔑 We need each other]] - [[🔑 Tell and act the truth]] - [[✍️ The Myth of Self-Reliance]] - [[🔑 Our parts influence other people]] - [[🔑 At any given moment, there are other people meditating]] - Community helps us nurture or create nourishing [[⭐️ Relationships]]. - Nurturing relationships are a form of Self-Care, and Community is a gift you give yourself. - We have a higher pain tolerance when we're with someone than when we're by ourselves. - Being with someone safe is more stabilizing than any exercise. ###### Community Building Building community can be hard to do and it takes time and numbers. People we like and who are really good in [[⭐️ Relationships]] can often be in many close relationships already. Stay in touch with them anyway, things happen. We build communities out of shared [[⭐ Values]] and interests. We can make our favorite things our job not to make a profit, but to make friends. Authentic Communities require... - Time - [[☀️ Vulnerability]] - Reciprocation (mutual effort) - [[Communication]] - [[🕯️ Generative Conflict]] Resolution ###### See Also - [[⭐️ Relationships]] - [[⭐️ Community Care]] - [[💡 Relational Intimacy]] - [[🧘 Multiplayer Meditation]] - [[🛠️ The Long Table]] ###### Resources - 📖 Bowling Alone by Robert D Puttnam [^1]: