🔼: [[💡 Interdependence]], [[☀️ Connection]], [[🕯️ Resourcing]] #### ⭐️ Community Authentic communities are webs of interconnected relationships, and almost all of them are built in-person. The people who belong to them live together, work, eat, and cry together. Our communities are the people we walk away with after the show is over. We are participating in reciprocal relationships, being vulnerable and open with each other. We share meals, we sit around the kitchen table, we talk about local goings on and local [[World-Attunement]], mutual aid, and community projects. They are comrades, lovers, friends, intimates, and confidants – not influencers or fans. %% Being anchored primarily in online communities likely keep us moving less and generally involve our bodies less. %% ###### Community Building Building community can be hard to do and it takes time and it takes numbers. People we like and who are really good in [[⭐️ Relationships]] can often be in many close relationships already. Stay in touch with them anyway, things happen. We build communities out of shared [[⭐ Values]] and interests. We can make our favorite things our job not to make a profit, but to make friends. Authentic Communities require... - Time - [[☀️ Vulnerability]] - Reciprocation (mutual effort) - [[Communication]] - [[💡 Conflict]] Resolution ###### Keys - [[🔑 Everything is connected to everything else]] - [[🔑 Shared entertainment is a low form of intimacy]], but that can be a good thing when starting new relationships and bringing people together initially. - [[🔑 Most online communities are pseudo-communities]] - [[🔑 Community is essential to trauma recovery]] - [[🔑 Healing is no one person's responsibility]] - [[🔑 There is no such thing as Self-Care]] - [[🔑 We need each other]] - [[🔑 Tell and act the truth]] - [[✍️ The Myth of Self-Reliance]] - [[🔑 Our parts influence other people]] - [[🔑 At any given moment, there are other people meditating]] - Community helps us nurture or create nourishing [[⭐️ Relationships]]. - Nurturing relationships are a form of Self-Care, and Community is a gift you give yourself. - We have a higher pain tolerance when we're with someone than when we're by ourselves. - Being with someone safe is more stabilizing than any exercise. ###### See Also - [[⭐️ Relationships]] - [[⭐️ Community Care]] - [[💡 Intimacy]] - [[🧘 Multiplayer Meditation]] - [[🛠️ The Long Table]] [^1]: