🔼: [[💡 Stress Response]] ##### Fawn Fawning is [[🛡️ Freeze]] + [[🛡️ Performing]]. It’s draining and requires some kind of recovery. We binge-eat, we scroll, we hide. It’s also not our fault — [[🔑 we are all blameless]]. [[💡 Authenticity]] and authentic [[☀️ Connection]] are energizing. - [[🔑 Tell and act the truth (when you can)]] [[🔑 Parts use our minds and bodies to get or distract our attention|🔑 Fawning isn’t who we are]], it’s something our [[⭐️ Body|bodies]] and [[💡 Parts|Parts]] are doing. Beneath the giving, the [[🛡️ People-Pleasing]] and [[🛡️ Performing]], there is discomfort, force, tension, and stress. We say yes externally when our bodies and [[💡 Parts|Parts]] are saying no internally. Most adults do this to keep their [[💡 Attachment Theory|Attachment]] needs met. Fawning is not meant to be noticed by either the one fawning or the one being fawned to. And the one being fawned to isn't necessarily hurting us or meaning to, but this involuntary response reinforces behaviors in other people. For example, our fawning toward someone who’s constantly texting us might give them the impression that we *want them* to continue. - [[🛡️ People-Pleasing]] - [[🛡️ Codependency]] - [[🛡️ Fixing and Advice Giving]] - Excessive [[🛡️ Caretaking]] doing things for others that they can do for themselves - Overthinking social interactions, worrying if people are mad at you - A constant fear of getting into trouble, of people thinking you're bad - Being a "chameleon" in relationships, deferring to others for making decisions - Not knowing your interests, preferences, or opinions. - Trouble setting [[🕯️ Boundaries]] and speaking needs. - Fear of Abandonment - [[💡 Shame]] - Saying yes when you want to say no - Seeking praise and approval - Making drastic sacrifices for others - Partnering with people who are emotionally unavailable - Seeking praise and approval - Self-Sacrificing