🔼: [[⭐️ Emotions]] # Envy[^1] What we feel when we want something that another person has. - [[🔑 Envy and Jealousy point to what's important to us]] - [[Jealousy and Envy are often confused]] ###### Plain Envy (Friendly Envy? Frienvy?) “Ah, your vacation pictures are amazing, I’m so jealous! I wish I could go, but I'm glad you got to.” ###### Malicious Envy “You went on vacation while I worked 60 hours a week. You didn’t deserve it, and I’m going to put you down for having it.” Malicious envy is often a sign of [[🛡️ Perfectionism|perfectionism]]. We have [[🛡️ Criticizing|judgmental parts]] who hold us to an unrealistic or unreasonable standard and then criticize others for not “following the rules.” We aren’t really angry they took a vacation, we’re angry we’re holding ourselves to an unfair standard and are projecting that anger at others. When we experience this we can either stay envious or we can feel inspired — because it means we don’t have to be perfect. ###### Related - [[💡 Self-Righteousness|Self-Righteousness]] [^1]: [[📖 ✅ Atlas of the Heart (Show)]] Episode 3