🔼: [[⭐️ Emotions]], [[⭐️ Inner-Compass]] # Regret Regret is a challenging and painful [[⭐️ Emotions|emotion]] that frequently provokes [[🛡️ Criticizing|🛡️Inner-Criticism]]. But regret is not bad or wrong to feel (nothing is) despite what many of us have been culturally taught to believe — it just often comes with a ”Second Arrow.” Not only does some [[💡 Parts|Part]] of us regret something, another may not want to feel it or believe we [[💡 Should Statements|shouldn’t]]. But there is benefit to noting our regrets. This feeling is actually a friend — a natural inner-teacher, and by suppressing or wallowing in it, we miss out on opportunities for growth and [[💡 Self-Intimacy|self-understanding]], for becoming better attuned to our [[⭐️ Inner-Compass]]. Regret, including [[💡 Should Statements|”Should Haves”]] and [[🛡️ Criticizing|🛡️Inner-Criticism]], can illuminate clarify our [[⭐ Values]] and it is frequently a catalyst for change and course-correction. What do our regrets say about what we care about? When we look at what we regret doing or not doing or even what we feel like we would regret, we can get a sense of what’s important to us and use that information to make more aligned choices. Regret helps us attune to our Inner Compass. Maybe we had a gut feeling about something and then went along anyway, only to find out that our gut was right. That regret is showing us that our [[intuition]] is more trustworthy than we thought, and it tells us how to recognize our inner compass. Bring to mind a moment from the past you wish had gone differently, something you did or didn’t do, a choice you did or didn’t make. - Examined what happened - How you feel about it - Why you feel this way - Identify the value illuminated by this regret and consider how that might affect your decisions in the future. - Lean into [[⭐ Self-Compassion]] and [[⭐️ Self-Care]]. - [[🔑 Plants need repotting]] [^1]: