🔼: [[Protector Strategies 🛡️]] ##### Blaming Instead of pinpointing the *cause* of a problem, a [[💡 Parts|Part]] of us assigns blame and sometimes [[💡 Reactive Protectors|reacts]] with [[💡 Anger]]. Blame is a kind of punishment – It doesn't help solve anything. But it does... - Trigger [[💡 Exiles]] and [[💡 Protector Parts]] - Instigate and/or perpetuate [[💡 Polarization]] - Reinforce many [[💡 Burdens 🪨#Personal Burdens|🪨 Personal Burdens]] ###### Self-Blame A [[💡 Parts|Part]] blames us or another [[💡 Parts|Part]] for something we weren't responsible for or beat on us or each other relentlessly whenever we make mistakes. ###### Other-Blame You blame others and deny your own role in the problem. ###### The Truth - Self-blame helps us feel like we’re in control. Because if it’s our fault, we can fix it. - [[🔑 Blame is an attempt to make sense of experience]] - [[🔑 We are all blameless]]