###### 🔑 People-Pleasing leads to resentment Given enough time, [[🛡️ People-Pleasing]] leads to [[💡 Resentment|Resentment]] in all sorts of ways. - These [[💡 Protector Parts|Protectors]] learn that doing things for other people helps us be acceptable, keeps us safe, or is how we earn care and consideration. Niceness becomes transactional and self-sacrificing to an enormously stressful and depleting degree, and when we aren't given what our people-pleasing [[💡 Protector Parts|Protectors]] learned to expect, it can trigger their [[💡 Exiles|Exiles]] who still carry [[💡 Burdens 🪨|Burdens]] like the fear of abandonment, obligation, and over-responsibility, so their [[💡 Protector Parts|Protectors]] start to resent the one who didn't reciprocate. - Niceness tells us it's better to lie than to set [[🕯️ Boundaries|boundaries]], and the [[💡 Parts|Parts]] whose boundaries are being violated are bound to eventually retaliate. - We might actually be resenting ourselves for not being [[Self-Inclusive|Self-Inclusive]] [^1]: