# Assertive Communication [[On Tools, Skills, and Practices...]] Type: Use: [[⭐️ Relationships]] The opposite of [[💡 Passive Communication]]. 1. Focus on feelings, not on our perception. Feelings are internal - Not "When you don't call I feel ignored," but "When you don't call, I feel anxious." 2. Learn to recognize and name what you mean, like the [[Downward Arrow Technique]] - Instead of "I need you to text me more." think of the need behind the need "I need to feel more secure in our relationship." 3. Start with safe people and easy situations - Tell your bff you have a headache and ask to turn down the music - Ask the waiter for extra something, don't apologize. 4. Be aware of your body language and tone of voice 5. Don't wait. Express your needs as they come up.