🔼: [[⭐️ Relationships]], [[⭐️ Community]] ##### Interdependence >"By the time you've had breakfast you've already depended on half the world." >— MLK Interdependence, or what Tich Nhat Hanh called “Interbeing”, is the much-neglected reality of world-wide [[☀️ Connection]]. Each of us are constantly depending on other people, on other non-human beings, on the Earth and its moon; we *cannot* thrive or even survive on our own unassisted. Independence and self-sufficiency are myths — all-that-is is entangled. Forgetting or denying this is one of the primary mistakes driving [[the Meta-Crisis]]. ###### Keys - [[🔑 We need each other]] - [[🔑 There is no such thing as Self-Care]] - [[🔑 All Emotional Regulation is Co-Regulation]] - [[✍️ The Myth of Self-Reliance]] - [[✍️ We live in a traumatized world]] - [[🔑 Everything is connected to everything else]] - [[🔑 Form is emptiness, emptiness is form]] - [[Nondual Work]] - [[Koan|Koans]] ###### Interdependence in Relationships Interdependence is not [[💡 Enmeshment|enmeshment]] or [[🛡️ Codependency]] — that’s closer to [[Dependence]]. Instead it describes a mutual supportive connectedness within a [[⭐️ Relationships|relationship]] that allows for [[🕯️ Boundaries|boundaries]], safety, autonomy, and full self-expression. Interdependence feels more like finding your place in the universe as your authentic, autonomous, self-supporting self while being open and connected with everyone and everything else. There is a kind of intimacy without the sacrifice of autonomy, and a kind of autonomy without the sacrifice of intimacy. An interdependent community fosters an ecology of healthy and harmonized relationships, where it’s unclear who is helping who. Generosity and love is its foundation, and it flows in all directions. > "Fitting in is becoming who you think you need to be in order to be accepted. Belonging is being your authentic self and knowing that no matter what happens, you belong to you." > – [[👤 Brené Brown]]