🔼: # ⭐️ Needs Many of us define a need as something we require in order to survive. This is true but incomplete – life is about *much more* than survival. Needs are also the things we need in our lives and relationships for us to feel safe, connected, and happy – to [[⭐️ Individuation|⭐ bloom to our fullest, strongest, and brightest]]. There are universal needs, but we cannot standardize this. Our differences matter. Disability matters. Trauma matters. Different people have different needs. - 🔑 Our [[💡 Desires]] point toward our needs - No one person will be able to meet all of our needs. - [[🔑 Plants need repotting]] %% If the lack of it somehow drains the life out of you, it’s a need? (addiction withdrawals) %% [[The Minimally Good Life]] ##### Basic Universal Needs **Everyone** deserves basic access to food, water, shelter, care, and time. This includes people who are different from us, and it includes those who have harmed others. The old adage "Hurt people, hurt people" is true. It is a person's lack of resources and care and the presence of [[💡 Trauma|Trauma]] that causes people to harm others. Harm is always borne of pain – even if that pain is unfelt. To deny people their basic needs is a form of violence, which creates more harm and perpetuates this [[💡 Vicious Cycle|vicious cycle]]. ##### Examples The list of Universal Needs has grown out of [[🛠️ Nonviolent Communication]]. Here are some links to some versions: [https://sfcommunityliving.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Needs-Handout-NVC-folks.pdf](https://sfcommunityliving.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Needs-Handout-NVC-folks.pdf) From Sofer: [https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5785b85b15d5dbb0fab56c26/t/5e41e77bae7d841bf59cc023/1581377403978/Needs+List-2020.pdf](https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5785b85b15d5dbb0fab56c26/t/5e41e77bae7d841bf59cc023/1581377403978/Needs+List-2020.pdf) %% - THE 6 HUMAN NEEDS (Tony Robbins) 1. Predictability: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure 2. Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli 3. Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed 4. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something 5. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding 6. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others %% | Physical Wellbeing | [[Honesty]] | [[☀️ Connection\|Connection]] | **Leisure/ Relaxation** | Peace | Autonomy | Meaning | | :------------------------------: | :-----------------: | :-----------------------------------: | :-------------------------: | :---------------------: | :-----------------: | :-----------------------: | | Air | [[💡 Authenticity]] | [[Settling & Acceptance\|Acceptance]] | Adventure<br> | Humor | Beauty | Choice | | Food | Integrity | Affection | Joy | Comunion | Freedom | Celebration of life | | Health | Presence | Appreciation<br> | [[💡 Play\|Play]] | Ease | Independence | Challenge | | [[🕯️ Movement and Exercise 👟]] | | Attention | Pleasure | Equality | Ease | [[☀️ Clarity]] | | Safety | | Belonging | Rejuvination | [[💡 Harmony\|Harmony]] | Power | Competence | | Shelter | | Cooperation | [[⭐️ Rest and Restoration]] | Inspiration | Self-Responsibility | Consciousness | | Touch | | Communication | [[⭐️ Sleep\|Sleep]] | Order | Space | Contribution | | Water | | Closeness | Fun | | Spontaneity | [[☀️ Creativity]] | | | | [[⭐️ Community\|Community]] | Lauighter | | | Discovery | | **Security** | | Companionship | | | | Efficacy | | Consistency | | [[☀️ Compassion\|Compassion]] | | | | Effictiveness | | Order/Structure | | Consideration | | | | Growth | | Peaceful Surroundings | | Consistency | | | | Hope | | Peace of Mind | | [[💡 Empathy\|Empathy]] | | | | [[⭐️ Learning\|Learning]] | | Protection | | Inclusion | | | | Mourning | | Emotional Safety | | [[💡 Intimacy\|Intimacy]] | | | | Participation | | Stability | | [[🕯️ Love\|Love]] | | | | Purpose | | Trusting | | Sexual Expression | | | | Self-expression | | | | Support | | | | Stimulation | | | | Mutuality | | | | To matter | | | | Nurturing | | | | Understanding | | | | (Self)Respect | | | | | | | | Safety | | | | | | | | Security | | | | | | | | Stability | | | | | | | | Support | | | | | | | | To know | | | | | | | | To be known | | | | | | | | To see | | | | | | | | To be seen | | | | | | | | To understand | | | | | | | | To be understood | | | | | | | | Trust | | | | | | | | Tenderness | | | | | | | | Warmth | | | | | | | | Reassurance | | | | | The feelings and needs presented here are neither exhaustive nor definitive. They are meant as a starting point to support anyone who wishes to engage in a process of deepening self-discovery, and to facilitate greater understanding and connection between people. We hope you found it of benefit. Every day, around the world, CNVC aims to spread and support Nonviolent Communication so all may be inspired to become fluent in this “Language of Life.” May you be inspired to pass it on. ![[⭐️ Emotions#Feelings When Needs Are Satisfied|emotions]] ###### See Also - [[Non-Negotiables]] [^1]: https://www.sociocracyforall.org/nvc-feelings-and-needs-list/