🔼: [[💡 Burdens 🪨]] #### Personal Burdens [[💡 Burdens 🪨|Burdens]] picked up through personal life experience. They're a kind of residue that accumulate after frightening, shaming, hurtful, injurious, or [[💡 Trauma|traumatic]] events. [[Heather's Story|Heather’s]] exile carries a Personal Burden: ![[Heather's Story#^a04b61]] ##### Examples of Personal Burdens - Their stories[^1] ###### Beliefs - It's my fault. - I'm not enough. - I'm unworthy. - I’m worthless. - I’m too much. - I’m unlovable. - I can never get it right. - Something is wrong with me. - I don't belong. - Beliefs about money. > [!NOTE] > Much of the time these beliefs are exiles' burdens, but not always. There are protectors who might think these things[^2] *about* exiles they're [[💡 Polarization|polarized]] with. For example, a high-achieving [[💡 Proactive Protectors|Proactive Protector]] might polarize with a [[💡 Exiles|exile]] because one of their [[💡 Protector Parts|Protectors]] kept us safe by refusing to take risks. ###### Feelings - Shame - Sadness - Fear - Loneliness - Terror ###### Energies or Sensations - Empty - Hollow - Untethered, like an astronaut floating through space [^1]: [[📖 ✅ IFS Online Circle]] Month 3: Working with Exiles & The Trauma Behind the Rage - Month 3 with Toni Herbine-Blank [^2]: [[📖 ✅ IFS Online Circle]] Month 3: Working with Exiles & The Trauma Behind the Rage - Month 3 with Richard Schwartz